“After four kids and struggling to look “just right,” I realized I really am perfect the way I am” – Ms J

As a photographer specializing in boudoir, I often hear a mix of excitement and nervousness from my clients before their sessions. It’s a deeply personal experience. Stepping outside one’s comfort zone to be photographed in such an intimate way takes courage. One question that frequently surfaces in our pre-session chats is, “What is your biggest concern for your session?”. Body confidence after kids is always one of the first things I hear.

For many, the worry centers around feeling self-conscious and the fear of those insecurities will translate into a shy or awkward appearance on camera. She shared with me how her own body image had held her back from even considering a boudoir shoot for years. A sentiment I know resonates with so many. It’s a testament to her strength that she ultimately decided to celebrate herself as a beautiful birthday gift.

Hearing her initial concerns and then witnessing the transformation during and after her session is one of the most rewarding aspects of my work. She described our time together as feeling like “friends just hanging out taking pictures,” which is always my goal. Helping them feel like we are old friends lets their true selves shine.

The most profound part of her experience was hearing the impact the shoot had on her confidence, self-worth, and self-image. This is what truly fuels my passion. The moment she recounted showing her albums to her husband and his surprised reaction – “Why did you do it?”. Also, her powerful realization that the beautiful woman in the photos was the same woman she saw in the mirror. Reading that brought tears to my eyes. In these moments, the true magic of portrait photography unfolds. It’s not just about creating beautiful images. It’s about helping women see themselves through a lens of love and acceptance.

Her affirmation that the images and the entire experience were “well worth the money” resonated deeply. Knowing that these beautifully crafted albums will serve as “forever keepsakes” – tangible reminders of her perfection – is why I pour my heart and soul into this art form. Creating a special album just for her husband was the icing on the cake. A perfect heartfelt gift born from her newfound confidence.

Witnessing this journey, from initial apprehension to radiant self-acceptance, is why I love what I do. It’s a privilege to be a part of these powerful transformations. I love showing women the beauty that was always there. And to all those out there who might be feeling that same initial nervousness, I hope stories like this inspire you to take the leap and discover the incredible beauty within yourself.

What was your biggest concern prior to booking your Boudoir Session? How do you feel now?

I was so nervous about my pictures making me look shy on camera since I was self conscious about my body. Cassy made me feel so comfortable, like we had always been friends just hanging out taking pictures. She is very professional but she also made it so fun with a warm comforting atmosphere. 

Have you ever done a boudoir shoot before? If so, how does your shoot with Cassy compare to your prior experience?

No

How would you rate your overall experience?

★★★★★

Why did you do your boudoir shoot?

I had wanted to do a boudoir shoot for years but always wanted to do it when I lost my baby weight. After four kids and struggling to look “just right,” I realized I really am perfect the way I am and proud of how I look – so I decided to treat myself for my birthday. 

What, specifically, did you enjoy most about your portrait session and why?

I loved all the tips and suggestions she gave in advance. Cassy has a well thought out timeline to remind you when to shop and get hair/nails done, among other things. She helps you figure out your body shape and has tons of tips for picking out the right outfits for YOU. 

What did doing this shoot do for your self confidence, self worth, and self image? Tell me your story.

After I received my albums from my shoot I showed them to my husband and one comment he made was that he was surprised since he knows I am so shy and self conscious about my body – “ Why did you do it?” I told him I had always wanted to have a boudoir shoot but I never liked the person I saw in the mirror enough to think she was beautiful enough. After my shoot and seeing the album pictures, I can look at them then look at myself in the mirror and see that it’s the same person and that I really am beautiful. 

Do you feel your images and the services you received were worth the money you paid? How so?

The albums are beautifully made that will be a forever keepsake to remind yourself just how perfect you are. I made a special album for my husband and he absolutely loves it. They are something I will always treasure and well worth the money for the whole experience.  

Hair and Makeup by Danni Manning of True Beauty

Have you thought about booking your own shoot with Cassy? Download your complimentary Dream Shoot Planner by clicking HERE.  It will tell you all about the experience and what to expect.  I would love to chat with you! You can give me a call directly at 319-849-5152.  You can also email me at info@chrysalisboudoir.com.  I can’t wait to hear from you!